MEN!!!

The problem with some men...they know what to do to get a woman, but they don't know what to do to keep that woman.

So, I ask you intelligent sistas...What's up with some of these men? Before you proceed...I'm rambling a bit; however, i think you will be able to follow. Your two cents are welcome!

They constantly leave me puzzled, how about you? They are great creatures in the beginning. Seemingly, they are kind-hearted, respectful, caring, warm, sensitive, considerate, attentive, have a great sense of humor, and just plain ole nice (in the beginning that is). Would you agree or disagree? Seems to me that most engage in a number of relationships with women (some, at the same time - HA!). You would think they had this relationship and respect thing down to a science. Um...I guess not, because I don't know a brotha yet with the title M.D. following his name. Have you dated such a man? I didn't think so!

Where are these men that were raised by their mommas, you know the kind that were raised to love, respect and treat a woman right? I can't begin to believe that these same influential mommas told them "but BABY only LOVE and TREAT them right until you get what you want from them; then break their hearts". What do you think?

They...note when I use the term "they", of course, I don't mean all men. I'm simply getting tired of typing most men (its a tad bit redundant, if you ask me). Okay, moving right along...what was I saying...Oh yeah, so...as I was saying...they don't act right after a few months. It's like a person at a new job...once they get off probation...they unbutton a few buttons, loosen up the tie, start taking their shoes off under their desk. You can act like you don't' know what I'm talking about, but you know its true. You probably got your shoes off, right now. LOL

No, seriously, aren't you tired of the ones (men) that play with your emotions, feelings and heart. Haven't we prayed to GOD (heck some of us FAST on a regular basis about this "mate" thing/desire) enough about the type of "good man" we would like. BUT, for some reason we keep meeting the knuckle-heads (KHs). Don't get me wrong, you may not currently be dealing with a KHs, but, let's be truthful...you've had one, two, three, four, five (raise you had if your sure), six that were KHs. They treated you nice, or should I say they were on their best behavior and then after 3 months ...SOUND THE ALARM!!!! They flipped the script on you. Um...And to think that a few of us (SISTAS) have a 3-month sex (Joan from girlfriends...give him some) rule. Little do we know...they have a 3-month rule too...get what I want from her and I'm out! Hold that thought!!!!

OK, back track...IF not you, I have been praying about this "mate". No, I don't pray often but some times I try to remind GOD (as if he needs a constant reminder "Dear GOD, you remember what I prayed to you about 2 months ago, well, it's Summer time, and I prayed that he would show up some time in the Spring, I don't mine waiting, but do you think He'll show up by FALL?" Child...you laugh all you want, but I know good and very well that you've done that a few times. If not, just laugh at the thought. THERE AREN'T ANY RULES...you don't play with people feelings.

Personally, I tell myself all the time "DON"T SETTLE", but somewhere way down low on the opposite side of the truth, righteous and faith...I'm telling myself...SELF, SHUT UP, WE WANT HIM NOW, so no he may not be all of what you been praying for, but GIRLFRIEND he is a man...and a man is what you need, so don't you worry your little self about his hang-ups, because it beats you being alone. But reality kicks in and I know that settling will only harm me in the long run.

But, could it be true...that some of us sub-consciously are going against what we truly know to be the truth? Goodness...I think we (a few of us) need to have a slumber party at a therapist's office because we all can't fit on one little sofa. Honestly, a few of us really need to realize that GOD has something mighty in store for us. The man that is longing to meet you & me (we aren't the only ones waiting)...He will greet us like no other man has ever done before. Confidence will be his cologne of choice and his speech will be impeccable. He'll walk with the grace of a stallion and His eyes will be locked with thankfulness. And, he'll understand...that GOD gave you to him as a gift and the same thing it took to meet you, talk to you, laugh with you, love you and PRAY with you, will be the same things that He will do to keep you, protect you, love you more, cherish you and provide for you. Then, and only then...will you notice the GS stamped on his back; which stands for "GOD's son".

From me to you!
Just a little hope in your day.
Tanya Hicks